I’ve been reading How to Win Friends and Influence People - in the digital age. 

My first thought was how long ago the original was published - 1936. 

The second was that it wasn’t a salesperson’s book with advice on using subterfuge to influence people into believing a sales pitch. Although it has explained why I get sales calls with the caller wanting to be my friend. It always feels very false and is very unlikely to win me over.

I’m interpreting it for my personal life and interactions.

It explained a little about how I now live that life, maybe even why I’m more positive and hopeful than I once was. It’s much easier when you aren’t in conflict with everyone, or expecting to be. When you don’t look for, or expect the worst. A phrase from the book that resonated with me was “leave people better”.  It would be great if every connection could have this result.

The premise Brent Cole discusses is that today, we can broadcast ourselves more widely and much faster. Email, social media, blogs and websites can be seen around the world. It’s why you should pause before hitting the keyboard. A calm response, no response or acceptance of another opinion is often the best reaction.

The book suggests taking an interest in others. Consider them when you make plans. 

Being accountable.

It’s not suggesting that you forget yourself and prioritise everyone else, though. If you want people to like you, influence them by deeds. Say what you mean, consider them, don’t discuss others, keep your promises and take ownership of your actions.

Build trust.

It’s a book I’ve reread, which is unusual for me. But I think I’ll absorb more each time.

How does this all come together and fit in with my life?

I’ve written about my changing outlook on life. Reading this book has given me insight into how those changes have affected others, and why.